April 24, 2018 at 11:40 am
Hi! I like reading about your sunshine-life even though it’s completely different from my achievements and salary-work. I have toddlers, a lot alike, like reading, love my job. I have a question which I think give blogreaders a headache. Don’t you ever get scared you’re going to become speed-blinded the more successful your businesses become? I mean, do you ever stop to think about what you have achieved? I’m just wondering because you’re pretty careful and nowadays you talk a lot about having an inner-self. Sometimes you write that you have a lot to process. But surely, you’ve already taken the next step to a hopefully more stable relationship even if it’s delicate and you’re being careful? Let’s just say I’m playing with the idea that I’m your new relationship, I would be sad about ”everything” you express and that you have to process so much even though you’ve let go of the past and is dating someone new? It confuses me as a blog reader. Either you’re divorced and move on or you’re seeing a new person and process the old.
Answer: Yes, you’re correct, it’s easy to become speed-blinded when you’re running a company in a fast tempo. We’re aware of that and sometimes you make mistakes so we have to backtrack but that’s how we’ve chosen to work. The important thing is to surround yourself with people who dare questioning you. I think it’s really hard when I get quiestions that sting but I know that also means the person has a point in what they’re saying. I’ve learnt now that when something stings it’s not a strategy that’s 100% but an opportunity that can be made even better.
When almost the whole company could fit in Pingis’ summerhouse on Fårö
The thing about stopping to contemplate or enjoy is more difficult because the goal is so big. I want our companies to be worth billions and it’s a long way there. And why do I want that? Because goals are fun and it would be pretty awesome as a relatively young Swedish woman to succeed with that. To inspire other to dare to dream higher. Nevermind that dream about being an executive, create your own instead. Nevermind that dream about struggling to make a million, but try to achieve through your own million-dollar company. Nobody has succeed with that. It doesn’t have anything to do with happiness. It’s proven that a salary of 40,000 – 50,000 kronor per month doesn’t influence your happiness in life at all and I absolutely believe that (although I can’t find the source now)
New office, more employees and a couple of kids later…
However, you can have an opportunity to impact when you’re bigger. You can make a proper difference for other people. Everything from being able to create jobs, give more to the welfare, start projects for people in need. Most billionaires I’ve met are philanthropists, the thing that makes them happy is helping others.
Last question, about if the person I’m seeing gets upset over everything I need to process and is open with it? Not at all. And it’s like this, I’ve been married to someone I’ve had two kids with. Two times we’ve plus-ed together, carried children and gone into labour and meet the children for the first time. Separating from that person is tough and takes time. Some people crash immediately, process it and move on. In my case, I shut down and then it leaks out after a while when I feel strong again. Everyone is different. Right now I’m going through a massive inner journey and it’s something the person I’m seeing will have to accept. In our case, he’s a huge support in my journey and helps me reach into my personal-self.