I picked the kids up at 4pm-ish today and we went straight to the park. 24 degrees and quite sunny today, blissful. We played on the swings, pretended to run a shop and even spotted a deer a bit further away. Quite exciting actually.
On a few different occasions, Gillis has seen the older kids climbing on the roof of a little playhouse and have wanted to do this too, like the big boys, but haven’t yet dared to do it. Today we tackled the challenge and I taught him how to climb up. “Mommy, will you catch me if I fall?” and I answered “Of course, I would. I’m your Spiderman mommy and would never miss the chance of saving you.” Then his Spiderman mommy wanted to sit on the roof too. His absolute happiness when he managed it all by himself was just such a treat to see. Priceless! He sat there for a little while and just relished the moment, extremely proud of his own courage.
Once we got home, salmon was served to the children with dill and parsley sauce served with mash (everything made from scratch) and I had asked for salad with two different kinds of melon, feta, avocado, tomatoes, red onion, sprinkled with lots of seeds. Yummylicious! The pic doesn’t show this, but I always give the children veggie strips and they munch them so fast that I rarely have time to get a photo that includes these julienne strips. I read your comments about the outsourcing of food preparation and I was actually quite nervous about finding out what you thought of it, so I was prepared for harsh criticism like “Bad mom etc”, but most of you gave me positive comments. Phew.
I understood that my children have a different sort of everyday life at mine, but I think the most important thing is the upbringing and how I choose to raise them, what messages and feel I instil in them, not who serves their food. That is not what shapes their unique character and personality. I want to give my children a strong sense of self-esteem and the importance of being kind to our fellow humans. Every day I can see how Sally and Gillis are struggling with things, anything from putting their own shoes on to getting scraps of food off their plate before putting it on the work top after dinner or like Gillis today the dream of climbing up to the roof of the playhouse. I am always there by their side and support them all the way, so that we can solve the issues together. I want them to feel that I am always there for them if something is tough, but that they feel deep within themselves that I believe in them and their ability to manage things themselves. I reiterate this time and time again every day and it is great to see it pays off eventually. Courage is sprouting and growing inside Gillis and Sally and that courage will serve them well throughout their lives.
The roof that Gillis managed to climb up today will eventually change into the courage to stand up and talk in front of people, ask a girl or a boy out on a date, the brave act of saying no to peer pressure. Well, this list will be added to every month and every year for the rest of their lives. It is all about getting him to trust himself and knowing what he is capable of. That is exactly what I want to give him and his sister.